• Robert Francis Kelly
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Cardinal Dolan, it’s great to acknowledge when people counter the prevailing culture. You talked about “…a couple who has decided that the wife would sacrifice a promising professional career to stay at home and raise their children — these wonderful people…” … about ‘fathers OR mothers who have sacrificed or delayed a promising professional career to stay at home and raise their children’. And let’s not exclude those wonderful people who help parents by caring for their children while the parents serve us and God in their professional careers or volunteer service! Our family knows firsthand the cost to the professional careers of fathers and mothers when we are open to children, who are gifts from God.

  • Kim A
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you, Cardinal Dolan. From a homeschooling mom of 7 in the heart of the Bible belt Georgia.

  • Keith
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Amen Cardinal Dolan. We do indeed look to the Church for support and encouragement!!! The only place that consistently supports our desire to love and serve the Lord is the Church. Popular culture, in whatever form one may choose, consistently tells us the path to truth lies in a place that we as Catholics know surely will lead us to a path of deception. We need the Church to be there to support us in our faith when we are being attacked at every turn by a world that celebrates the opposite of the Church.

  • George
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you for saying this Cardinal Dolan. It is rough sometimes, but we are trying, and we pray for God’s grace to persevere with joy. Thanks for all that you do.

  • Deacon Peter Andre
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    I am one of the ‘minority’ to which you refer. Married to the same bride for 37 years with wonderful grown children. I think that the reason the minority is a minority is because bishops, priests, and deacons, like myself, have less often proclaimed the joyful aspects of the ‘minority’ lifestyle but the ‘thou shalt not’ aspects of the other choices. Let us avail our selves of people in our communities who know how to craft this message of joy in the 21st century. Thank you for your leadership

  • Jessie
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    I totally agree with you, but I think the single man or woman seeking their vocation or waiting for their spouse, fits into this category as well. Young Adults seeking holiness, yet excluded from their peers, and left without a community to encourage, equip, and empower them to become a vital part of their parish! Great article Cardinal Dolan! Thank you for your yes. Jessie

  • Cindy Roberts
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you Cardjnal Dolan!!! You understand how isolated and denigrated we often feel by secular society. This mom of five who stayed home and has stayed married to the same man for 35 years sends you a big hug!!!

  • Fred hofheinz
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Hey, this is the 21st century. How about including husbands who give up their careers to stay at home to raise children.

  • Grace
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank goodness for your inclusion of the “new minority” in your message. I am a mother who was fortunate enough to stay at home and raise our four children, and hence, a member of this minority. I have, on occasion, felt demeaned and demoted because of my “non-professional” status. Perhaps my feelings are borne of insecurity since I am “just a mom.” To answer the question, “What do you do?” with “I’m a stay-at-home mom or “I work at home 24/7” usually leaves the questioner with very little to say. I am an oddity in today’s world – a happy oddity nonetheless!

    However, my deepest concerns are my children and the world they will inherit. My husband and I have raised four precious children who believe, as do we, that marriage is a holy union and that fidelity and chastity are gifts, that life is sacred and respect for all life underlies everything. Unfortunately for them, finding a soul mate with the same moral values and Christian ethics is harder than finding life on a distant planet.

    I have a few questions – Where and how can chaste, Christian young people find each other? More importantly, how can we turn the world around so that love and respect reign, fidelity and chastity are valued, so that goodness and truth are values we seek in ourselves and in others? How do we combat the pervasive notions of ever-present media that flaunt lust, greed, dishonesty, money, power, ad infinitum? How do we keep young people as active, willing participants of the Mass, in particular, and involved in the Church, in general? How do we encourage living in service for others?

    I am hopeful that the Church is not only thinking about ways to support this new minority but creating concrete programs with wonderful ways to get involved, join together to share ideas, to meet others, to serve those in need, to grow and to learn in the Faith, and to praise God. I also hope, in the wake of Papal Fever and the US visit of Pope Francis, that the Church does not drop the ball but rather harnesses the power of the internet and media in order to invite all to make a difference and become involved in such programs. A few suggestions for names of these programs – “Following Jesus,” “In His Footsteps,” or maybe “A Call to Holiness.” Sometimes, all we need is a push and a call. Perhaps with the support of the Church, the new minority will be able to cast their nets as did the original new minority, the first Christians. Imagine the possibilities!

  • Gibbons Burke
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    We hear much talk encouraging the faithful to go out and perform the Corporal Works of mercy in the preferential option for the poor, but very little about how parents, raising a family, are providing the Corporal Worlks of Mercy to the least among us, their children, and more importantly, providing the Spiritual Works of Mercy, which is a higher good because soul is eternal.

  • Mariae
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you so much for this. I will never forget.

  • Andrew
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you Cardinal! This was very good to read today. I’m a university student and just came from class feeling rather disheartened after another student made a rather crude comment regarding celibacy of religious sisters. It got me thinking about this same subject of having what should be celebrated or at least respected being reviled. I’m glad the subject is on your mind too.

  • Christian Seno
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    With all due respect Cardinal Dolan – these are not a “New Minority”, but rather the few who have always enjoyed privilege and protection within the Church. “Couples who, inspired by the Church’s teaching that marriage is forever, have persevered through trials; couples who welcome God’s gifts of many babies; a young man and woman who have chosen not to live together until marriage; a gay man or woman who wants to be chaste; a couple who has decided that the wife would sacrifice a promising professional career to stay at home and raise their children” are few, perhaps because most other people realize that their lived realities – real life – no longer correspond to the expectations of the Institutional Church.

    Within the scheme of the Institution you uphold, these “New Minorities” are not disenfranchised or excluded… they are lauded and held up as the paradigm to which all others should aspire.

    “Real Minorities” are those consistently kept out of the sheepfold because they do not comply with these expectations or because their realities no longer render them palatable to you. Gays and lesbians who assert their right to be happy, women who want their rightful place at the Supper of the Lord, families who are aware of the impact too many children will have on our Earth’s very limited resources… These are the “Real Minorities” we should be welcoming, precisely because they are not welcome by most in the hierarchy.

  • Martin
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    I feel you, Your Eminence!

  • Susan Varenne
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you for this! Those of us who have worked hard and prayed hard to live faithful married lives and to raise our children to be virtuous, believing Catholics often feel like the excluded in today’s Church. But without the core of faithful, practicing Catholics, the Church would collapse. Please do think of us and pray for us as well as for the “sheep’ who are lost.

  • sara
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you! This is so true and we are persecuted by relativism and modern thought quietly living and praying with Our Lady and the Church for the conversion of mankind.

  • Rachel
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    What about the minority who follow church teaching on contraception and sterilization? No mention of those who abstain for most of their married life because they don’t want large families? Disappointing that we aren’t included.

  • Eric Seddon
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you so much for this Cardinal Dolan. My wife and I have seven children, have striven to live our faith to the fullest, and have found strength, guidance, an refuge in Holy Mother Church. But it is as you say–we are often the minorities, even in Catholic schools and parishes. It can be demoralizing and frustrating. Sometimes it can feel as though we are being treated as the problem, or an embarrassment. We know this is not the case, and there are many who are there for us, along with the power of the Blessed Sacrament and the communion of saints. It is so refreshing and inspiring to even hear this mentioned. God Bless you.

  • Walt Shandrowsky
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    You know, your Eminence, I suppose I’ve never thought of it that way. But now that
    you mention it, I imagine that might have been how the faithful son must have felt when his prodigal brother was received with such joy and happiness upon his return to the family.

  • Jim
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    God bless you Cardinal Dolan! As a father of eight young children, life can be tough at times. Your words give my wife and I great consolation, knowing that our struggles will also be heard by the leaders of our beautiful Catholic Faith.

  • Jeane Castile
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    I am a single senior citizen, I am crippled with Fibromyalgia and Arthritis, I am a privately avowed celibate, and I am a Third Order Franciscan (Secular). At the risk of saying someone is doing something wrong, I sometimes feel ignored, at times like I’m maybe too “different”, sometimes left out. At times i feel not very useful. I think the people of the Catholic Church could do more to make me feel more included. I’m really a very nice person but few people take the time to talk to me or invite me to join them.
    God bless, Jeane Castile, SFO

  • BuckeyeBob
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you Cardinal Dolan! I can identify with several faces of the New Minority! Pray for me as I pray for you!

  • Anne
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Finally! Great! Thank you father, your words are carrying the truth. So comforting… I trust in you now. God bless you, I will pray for you.

  • Michelle
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Your eminence, God bless you for speaking up for us.

  • John Lowe
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Great Message! Thank you.

  • Ruth
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    A joyous and peaceful soul define the outer or physical state of a person. In this case, Church uses love to cure all form of physical and mental ailments in the society.

  • Karen
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you for remembering us, the minority. We are raising our children with the Faith, on one income, we love the Church. the children are the future of the Church, but where is She for us. God Bless you.

  • Mart and Angelique Steysel
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Dear Cardinal Dolan,

    Thank you for this encouraging words! The beauty that I’ve encountered in Church (in the netherlands) has changed my life (and of my wife) in a way that we want to live the Ideal everyday! Failing everyday in doing so, but always striving and desiring more! What we need is not an ethical or moral approach that fits our reduced humanity, but a companionship that wants to live the divine!
    Please be certain of our prayers for you and the bishop fathers,
    Mart (the Netherlands)

  • Diane Nicholson
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you, Cardinal for this intervention. I believe that Jesus would say, “Let those who have ears, listen!”

  • Bernadette Jee
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    As a stay at home mother of 7 I certainly feel I am the new minority. Please support us , the people who are sacrificing so much to raise families who are the building blocs of society.

  • anna
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Thank you Cardinal Dolan for saying what should be obvious to all – but sadly isn’t. I’m grateful you are at the synod giving voice to the courageous minority who are excluded in today’s culture, and all too often are taken for granted by the Church they love.

  • Mary Meister
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    Dear Cardinal Dolan,
    Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on the “new minority”. You’ve described what I was feeling for many years, but couldn’t clearly define. It is very reassuring that Church leaders can still “see” my husband and I, and other couples. Our challenges and our gifts have not been forgotten.

    Yours in Christ,

  • Ben
    October 12, 2015 Reply

    This is fantastic. Thank you for saying this!

  • Matt Abide
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Thank you Thank you Thank you, In a world that says I am crazy for having my 7th child and telling me that I cant afford. I just reply I have faith in God. They are my gold in life. I believe its the calling my wife and I have. Its a vocation and sacrifice that truly completes me. We are not better Christians (Catholics) than anyone else. We are sinners just like everyone else trying to raise and become Saints one day.

  • John O’Neill
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Sad, very sad but true.

  • Father George David Byers
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Blessings upon you, your Eminence!

  • Mary Pollock
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Beautifully written! I would add those faithful couples who struggle with the cross of infertility (and there are many) and yet suffer through it although it brings much strain to their marriage and stay faithful to the Church’s teaching on procreation and avoid reproductive technologies that go against that teaching although they might allow for a child to be born.

  • Michael
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Thank you for speaking on behalf of so many of us, Your Excellency, may God bless and keep you

  • BubbaCrowell
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Amen. Thank you for articulating what me and so many of my friends feel.

  • Vincent Licitra
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    The church is forever reaching outward to the people even as we reach toward holy mother church for guidance, comfort, and mostly for its praise and glorious worship of our Father, the Son and the holy Spirit which we partake in as the one thing right and just of a certainty.

  • Tim
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Awesome to be discovered! You didn’t give us a name though. Can we call ourselves the “faithful” without offending someone? Please tell the Synod about us.

  • souLTower
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    I agree completely. However, what I feel is missing in the church is the next step. We are asked as a church community to accept all; to share God’s grace with the disenfranchised and to welcome them in. But, once welcomed, how do we share God’s desire for us to be holy without pushing them out? Unfortunately, society has pushed the belief that we must accept the sinner and the sin. Anything else is received as judgmental and unwelcoming.

    I would love it if the church went the extra step to explain to the excluded what the end-goal of the church is; our salvation and how to achieve it. It would be very helpful if the Church taught the church (upper and lower case) how to welcome others and how to be in community with them. I feel that more instruction is needed by all.

    Thank you

  • Sal
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    I’m not Catholic – I’m Orthodox – but I am part of this minority, and God forgive me, but I do certainly feel belittled to no end.

  • Mary augustyn
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Bless the Family. Bless Cardinal Dolan for his quiet reminder that the traditional family swims against the current everyday. Pray for the family.

  • Ron Hill
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    I am so happy to be alive to see all of this happen, Our Pope is so refreshing to the entire world, Thank you for all that you do

  • Brenda from Flatbush
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Thank you, Cardinal Dolan! We sure as heck do feel marginalized, even (or sometimes especially) within the Church…and the “circles within circles” where we find others like ourselves are often bitterly judgmental of those at different “levels of orthodoxy.” Your words are greatly comforting.

  • Terry
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Your point is thoughtfully-made, and exactly right. Those who strive to live authentic, though generally imperfect, Catholic lives find very little welcome in our popular culture, which tolerates and celebrates virtually every other lifestyle. As a Church, we must regain our confidence in the truth and beauty of a Christ-centered life. And we must offer that life with joy to the world around us, where so many are searching in vain for the happiness that only God can provide.

  • Vicki Hassessian
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Your Eminence, Congratulations on a fine article! I cannot say that I have agreed with you in the past on other articles or statements, but on this one I give you a “Bravo Cardinal Dolan!” Let’s hear more things like this!
    Kissing the Sacred Ring,
    Mrs. Vicki Hassessian

  • Tim Haines
    October 13, 2015 Reply

    Your Excellency: I’m sure this goes through an assistant or PR person, and you will likely never see it. But in the event that you do….
    Thank you for saying what you’ve said here. It’s well articulated, it’s meaningful, and accurate, and not only does it need to be said, but the faithful really need to hear this sort of thing from the leadership once in a while. You’ve done a beautiful thing by providing this. However, I’m a little bothered that there is no pastoral support of this “new minority” in your blog post. You merely acknowledged their existence. That by itself has value, but the minority already know that they exist. While it’s good to hear that YOU (“the Church” so to speak) recognize their existence, what they really need even more is some support. The whole world has made “the new minority” feel isolated and almost ashamed for being who they are. The Church, believe it or not, also makes them feel isolated in many ways. Acknowledgement isn’t quite enough. Extend a pastoral arm to “the new minority” with the same zeal with which the Church extends a pastoral word to those who have no interest in changing their lives, and only want their lives to cause the Church to change doctrine. Grown children don’t need as much parenting, but they still benefit tremendously from parental support. The “new minority” may not need as much Mothering from Holy Mother Church, because they are presumably well-formed already. But they whither and are made weak by a lack of REAL support (verbal or otherwise) by the Church, or by an authority in the Church. This frail support beam renders them vulnerable to the tidal wave of secularism that they are trying to stand against, both outside, and WITHIN the Church, in their common Catholic experience. I think most will use the scripture to validate this “frail support”, reminding us that Jesus would leave the 99 sheep to save the 1 who has gone astray. But in today’s world what we’re really seeing is that our Mother (The Church) spends 7 days a week tending to the children next door, and is almost never to be found in her own home, where her children NEED their mother. Even good children need their mother. And “the minority” need their Mother. Thank you for acknowledging the “new minority” but please don’t stop there. Let them know that they are important, they are necessary, and that they are shining lights in a dark sky. They need to hear it. And it needs to come from someone in YOUR position in order for it to really mean something. It’s not enough that they hear it from me in a podcast every week. From the bottom of my heart I thank you again for what you have offered here. God be with you, and thank you for your service to the Church.
    Tim Haines

  • Laurie
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    The shepherd has left the 99 and gone out to search for the one. The 99 are safe and don’t need the shepherd as much as the one who doesn’t realize it’s lost. In order to find it, the shepherd has to go in strange places and call in ways the 99 who are safe, wouldn’t recognize because they’re not lost.

  • Christine Morrow
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    Cardinal Dolan, what an encouragement your words have been! Thank you for recognizing that we exist and acknowledging the ways we are living out the Catholic faith in this hostile culture.
    We are very grateful for your presence at the Synod.
    With love and thanks,
    Christine Morrow

  • Steve Joanis
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    In the last 4 years since my wife and I have tried to consciously surrender our will to God’s will by following church teaching. Since then, we have experienced an outpouring of His grace into our lives and that has been a tremendous source of comfort as we made decisions to go against cultural norms here in Massachusetts.

    Being part of a community of like minded believers has been very helpful. I have been blessed to be a part of a “conservative” congregation with a pastor who doesn’t mind telling me when I am not following the rules. This parish has been a great support to all of us who are trying to live a virtuous life. This parish has even attracted two orders of religious Sisters and many people travel a significant distance to be a part of this community.

    I have to admit to feeling a tension developing with my understanding of church teaching and the move to be inclusive. I want the church to grow. But, I worry that people who are part of our communities that are not trying to surrender to church teaching are normalizing sin and disobedience among some of us. Worse, I worry that they sow confusion about the realities of sin and blur the distinction between God’s will and evil. In Luke’s Gospel Jesus said to his disciples: “Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come. It would be better for them to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around their neck than to cause one of these little ones to stumble.”

  • Pamela Vance
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    Dear Cardinal Dolan,
    THANK YOU so much for your comments. My husband and I are included in the minority of “a couple who has decided that the wife … stay at home and raise their children …”. This decision involves the commitment of BOTH parents. We both live out the consequences of such a decision ( a vocation?! ) on a daily basis and very much feel our place in a minority group.
    My husband and I ( along with our 2 sons ) were received into the Catholic Church this past Easter ( coming from Anglican / Presbyterian Christian backgrounds ). My husband and I both had come to the recognition that the Catholic Church is the “fullest expression of Christianity ” . Part of the draw for me was the teaching that the Church’s teachings ( the Magisterium ) would not change, in spite of the current cultural or global mindset.
    We are currently involved with St. Rita’s catholic community in Dallas, TX. I heard of your blog’s comments by listening to EWTN radio, Teresa Tomio’s program Wed a.m.
    I am praying for you and all the bishops during the synod.
    THANK YOU again so much.
    Blessings to you, Pamela Vance, Dallas , Texas

  • Goranka
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    I’ve prayed to hear these words and this is the truth. We, the faithfull are the real wounded Church. And we are not heroes, we are trying to live our lives with love for Isus Christ and that means to strive for virtue and fidelity without excuses for immoral behevior.
    I knew a women who had an afair with a married man and as a Catholic (as she is also) I asked her how could she be happy knowing what she is doing is hurting his wife and their children. She sad she and he deserve happines and that he is not happy with his wife. I sad to her that this is not her problem and that they should work it out because if they are married for 15 years certainly they’ve had good moments together. So maybe the wife grew older, has put on some weight etc, but this does not mean that he has the right to leave her because some other women means she could find some happiness with this man. Than she sad that she loves him and that I want her to leave him and to be unhappy. I sad that the love she should be thinking about is the love to her sister in Isus Christ, his wife and if she did, than she would understand what she was doing to their life and to her own life and to the lives of all the married couples.
    She was angry with me, called me oldfashioned etc. but I decided that I have to tell her that because this is the truth and this is the only way i could do something to help her to save her soul.
    I am married and we have persevered through trials also.
    I really don’t know what to say to some of our devorced friends, because what ever I say and it envolves God’s words, they are not interested and I just can’t say to them that they did the good thing when they didn’t. They do not think that they did wrong because they feel they’ve outgrown their spouses and what they strive for is their personal growth. Pure New Age everywhere. With the risk of losing them as friends I don’t want to be sailent and to indorse their betrayal of God. I’am not rigid or judgemental but I do try to be clear.
    So, yes I feel excluded as one of the faithful and I pray every day for the suport and encouragent of the Church.
    This letter simplify to some extent my thoughts and my words (due to my lack of english) but I hope I’ve managed to explain some problems that we the minority meet in everyday lives.

  • Juan Trejos
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    Dear Cardinal Dolan,
    I’m Juan, I’m not an American, I’m from Colombia but I read your thoughts online. You have touched my heart with this message you posted. True, many in the Church we sometimes feel excluded because we can not express openly as we are and how we feel. I have wanted to serve the Lord in His Church, but I have seen the rejection by my “condition”. I want the Church to receive me as a child, I want the Church to be a mother who loves, accepts and cares for her children. I pray that one day I can serve the Church as a priest, I want to serve Catholic Church.
    I pray for you, for the Synod and pray for me. Blessings, Juan.

  • Jonathan
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    Your Eminence, thank you. I don’t know statistically how much of a minority we, who you speak of, are but we definitely feel excluded and shunned by our culture. This is exactly what I and I’m sure many others need to hear. Thank you so much for not forgetting us!

  • Agnieszka
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    it is as simple as that. Thank you!

  • Janice
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    Thank you, Cardinal, for acknowledging this “new minority” because that is exactly how I feel. I have been meditating often, as of late, on our Lord’s Passion. Who were the ones who set Him up to be crucified? One Apostle, His priests, and His chosen people, in short, His own Church which He created. So, I ponder, why should I be surprised if the worse of the persecutions come from my own fellow Catholics? Why should I be surprised if I feel like I’ve been thrown under the bus for holding to Catholic truth? If our Lord endured it, I suppose we should be expected to do the same. Nevertheless, St. John stayed with Him to the end, and I am grateful for the St. John’s of our day.

  • Fran
    October 14, 2015 Reply

    Amen! Amen! Amen Cardinal Dolan! Thank you!! Reading this moved me to tears. Please dear Shepherds, there are many faithful couples who have persevered in their vocation of marriage, who have been open to life and consider the children that God sends a blessing, who have made many sacrifices to raise them in their faith, and teach them at home, who have done without monetarily,( perhaps making it on one income, so that a parent can be at home), but have lifted their family up to the Lord in trust. These families NEED to hear and know your support and encouragement. It is a great blessing to me to now watch my own adult children raising their children with the same faithfulness to marriage and the family, but they need your support even more in this world that no longer upholds the dignity of the Sacrament of Marriage. Please do not forget us, but throw us a life line!
    God bless you! You are in my daily prayers during the Synod.
    Respectfully, Mrs. Fran Beach

  • Katee Stahl
    October 15, 2015 Reply

    And what about the fathers that decide to stay home because perhaps is the best financial decision for the family? Not there yet?

  • Michelle
    October 15, 2015 Reply

    Cardinal Dolan, thank you so much for these words of encouragement! You are absolutely correct that we often feel like the minority, even within the church. My husband and I have been married 24 years. We were only able to have one son, now a teenager, who has multiple disabilities. I have stayed home since he was born. We are part of the 20% of marriages that endure after having a child with a disability. Those of us who are trying to persevere need the Church’s support, too! Thank you so much for speaking up for us and being our shepherd.

  • Bob
    October 15, 2015 Reply

    Yes, the road of personal sanctification is not valued. And as mentioned, little spoken of at times within the Church. Saints! Saints with Christ! That is what the world needs today more than ever. May God grant us many with strong voices and wonderful examples.

  • Margaret O’Hagan
    October 15, 2015 Reply

    We may have Synods ad nauseam; but unless we have formation – from within families, from our schools, from the pulpits, our Faith will be lost to future generations.

  • Cassy O’Connell
    October 16, 2015 Reply

    With all due respect I think you have overlooked a group of people who should be considered in your list of new minority. I am of course referring to all the SINGLE people who ‘relying on God’s grace and mercy, strive for virtue and fidelity.”

  • fred legare
    October 16, 2015 Reply

    I am the father of 10 children who believes in the churchs’ teachings regarding marriage and fertility. My wife and I have struggled throughout our 22 year marriage to remain faithful and be open to life. All around us the culture of birth control reminded us how alone we were in society and even in our church. I would be lying if I were to say we were abandoned by Gods’ favor and consolation, however we long ago stopped expecting support or encouragement from our own priests and bishops, many of whom seem indifferent to the struggles of those trying to follow our conscience. Thank you for this letter. Thank you for including us.

  • Jacqueline B
    October 16, 2015 Reply

    What a lovely post Cardinal Dolan. But, I must say, I was wholeheartedly dismayed to learn that you were one of the Cardinals who sent that controversial letter to Pope Francis last week. Although I do appreciate your honesty in admitting it since there were a few who denied it, as only a coward would do. While the Pope was here, you seemed to bask in his glory and his limelight. And, now …. There seems to be some plotting against him. First, by whomever scheduled Kim Davies to meet him while he was here, and now this. I feel that there are many of you who seem threatened by some of his more liberal views, but it’s those views that are bringing MANY of us back to the church. Pope Francis has been the best thing for the Catholic Church in my lifetime. Please support him and what he is trying to do !!
    Most Sincerely,
    ( and respectfully)
    Jacqueline Baligian

    October 16, 2015 Reply

    My wife and I were most encouraged by your intervention at the Synod on the Family, by your signature of the letter expressing concerns about the Synod process, and by your blog of October 12 entitled “Inclusion of the New Minority”.

    My wife and I (now members of St.Peter’s Parish in Lewiston, New York) taught marriage preparation (“Evenings for the Engaged”) for years in the archdiocese of Toronto. We immersed ourselves in contemporary Catholic teaching on marriage, particularly Saint John Paul II’s “theology of the body” and Familiaris Consortio.

    We came to believe ever more strongly in the power of the Christian vision of marriage and in its redemptive relevance for an increasingly broken world.

    Before our involvement in marriage preparation we had experienced an “Emmaus” moment in becoming converted to the truth of Humanae Vitae and the practice of Natural Family Planning. In all candour, we felt like a minority in the world, which was not surprising, but also within the Church — which was.

    Your Eminence’s commitment to the teaching of Christ gives us great comfort in a most difficult time. We thank God for your clear teaching and courageous witness in the Church’s hour of crisis and confusion.

  • Michelle
    October 17, 2015 Reply

    Thank you so much for this! I’m a Catholic in my 30s who grew up in a broken family: both parents addicted to drugs, mother abandoned us when I was six, both parents taking long-term homosexual partners. In the mix of this, I hungered for God. A Youth 2000 retreat when I was 15 only sharpened that hunger, prompted me to watch EWTN, and eventually led to my attending Franciscan University. I’ve suffered a lot over the years for my faith, especially within my family, and have often felt isolated and forgotten. But God is good. Thank you for pointing out that Catholics like me exist.

  • Eugenia
    October 18, 2015 Reply

    May I suggest another minority–the divorced who live a chaste life? There actually are divorced people who do not chose to be divorced, yet continue to live out their lives according to Church teaching. Tiresome to always be lumped in with “the divorced” as if we were all lepers, or predators.

  • Patricia E Donahue
    October 18, 2015 Reply

    Thank you, Eminence, for recognizing the solid Catholic family as a minority in our Church. They do seem to be slipping into anonymity in society and in the Church. I continue to pray for them. I would ask you to consider another group who is also marginalized in our Church today: the single, celibate man or woman who is NOT homosexual but has not found a spouse. For many of us, especially those over 40, the Church becomes a center of our lives, but so little is done to support us spiritually, recognizing our needs are different from others in relationships. Please pray for us. Thank you for answering the Lord’s call and serving Catholics in America so faithfully. May God continue to bless you.
    In Christ’s name, blessings…

  • Jenny2
    October 19, 2015 Reply

    “couples who welcome God’s gifts of many babies”
    And what does Your Eminence have to say to the couple who realise that they cannot – whether practically, psychologically or emotionally – add another child to their family, especially if they find that a near-celibate relationship is destroying their marriage? (Let’s be honest: those “many babies” stop being adorable little pink creatures within a year, and evolve into complex and often demanding individuals. If they have special needs, even more so – and the intermittent support from a parish community tends to disappear once the “child” is no longer a sweet toddler, but a grown and possibly very difficult adult).

    “a couple who has decided that the wife would sacrifice a promising professional career to stay at home and raise their children”
    Only the wife, Your Eminence? Are there no couples where, say, a husband will give up personal and professional development, the company of other adults (outside the playground) and financial independence to look after all those gifts of God?
    I await Your Eminence’s next essay on such topics with great interest.

  • Ana
    October 19, 2015 Reply

    Thank you for your words. I do feel different, like an allien but I don’t regret leaving my job, the job I have ever dreamed, because of my family. We, me and my husband, have to face some economical difficulties and everybody, our families, friends, colleagues telling us I shouldn’t have left my job. But we think our children souls are much more important than money inside the pocket. God bless you.

  • Janice Barger
    October 20, 2015 Reply

    I have been a widow for almost 17 years. I never thought about asking the Church for support

  • Mary Moore
    October 24, 2015 Reply

    My thoughts exactly.

  • Anne Wolfe
    October 28, 2015 Reply

    Thank you for your pastoral remarks. There is virtually nothing offered as support humanly for the people you mention. Thankfully, God does sustain us through His Church.


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